I had an eventful and interesting day yesterday. One of the most intriguing aspects of it was that while the majority of the day went well, a part of it ended quite badly. Without delving into details, the issue wasn’t necessarily what happened, but rather how I reacted to the situation afterward. During the problem, I remained calm and collected. However, afterward, I started to fall into negative thought patterns, and the next day, I woke up with intrusive thoughts as well. It’s a problem that can be resolved simply with money, yet I found myself dwelling on it and criticizing myself. I was emotionally dysregulated, experiencing an internal struggle of criticizing and trying to soothe myself simultaneously. I felt anger and sadness but also tried not to delve too deeply into these emotions, knowing it wouldn’t be beneficial for me.

Recently, I revisited stoic philosophy, believing that often, it’s not the situation that matters but rather our reaction to it. I can view this as another issue to address and take accountability for, without blowing it out of proportion. I’ve realized that sometimes, a situation is what we make of it, and I want to ensure I’m in a good emotional state rather than dwelling in unhelpful feelings. It’s almost a foreign concept to me, being in a good emotional place and accepting that it’s okay to be there.

This doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen, but I believe it reduces the likelihood because I’m training my mind to focus on positive and stable emotions. While it’s not ideal to constantly seek positive emotions, I believe I can stabilize myself daily to avoid negative situations or handle them effectively if they arise.

Lastly, it’s crucial not to internalize a problem. I reminded myself that if I internalize what I perceive as associated with the problem, I’ll only repeat the cycle. I adopted a more pragmatic approach, reminding myself to prevent a recurrence while embodying traits of a successful person in my endeavors.

Until the next post, thank you for reading! As always, wishing you love and success!