Ever since I was a child, I have always had the feeling of inadequacy. It may have been the media distorting my perception, but I never really thought I was good enough, and that really shaped my behavior. Nothing was ever really good enough for myself, but this also affected my relationships with other people because I always thought things could be better. While I still believe that things could be better in a lot of ways, it no longer stems from a lack of self-worth or inadequacy. Rather, I believe things can be better from a place of abundance.

You may think, “Who cares? Things can be better no matter what,” and while that may be true, I believe that depending on where it comes from, the outcome can be entirely different. When it comes from a place of lack, the improvement in life becomes superficial rather than actually better because it isn’t as holistic. When improvement comes from a place of worth, then the outcome is usually more stable and secure with a stronger foundation.

It took me until now to finally realize that being enough is key to leading changes to a better life, whatever that may be. I always thought that I had to be something or do something in order to determine my self-worth, and that created an incredibly unstable foundation. For example, I really tied my worth to my job and the income that I was generating at one point. You can see how that isn’t very smart because when I decided the job wasn’t for me, I really lost my sense of self-worth, which was also part of my identity.

So now, I think it’s important to really ground your self-worth by being present and also understanding that I have control over my life. That is enough to dictate my own self-worth and learn from my past mistakes and good decisions to make even better decisions for the future.

It took me a long time to get to this point because I’ve always used extrinsic factors to determine my self-worth, and it usually led to pursuing the wrong things or not really seeing the full picture to make the right decisions. However, when I finally decided that I was enough, I knew how to do the right things to become successful at even the smallest tasks. This also created a protective barrier against the world’s dangers.

One of the greatest problems I faced when I felt like I was inadequate was that my self-worth would always be more or less depending on what was happening around me. But when I decided I was enough, there were no longer the ups and downs of my life. It became immediately clear to me that if I continued down this path, it would not end well, and it didn’t. My experiences weren’t what I wanted them to be, and while life on the whole wasn’t terrible, I definitely thought I’d be in a better place by now.

While I’m still working on repairing my self-worth and working towards self-acceptance, the truth is that I can only be in a better place after determining my self-worth and self-acceptance as enough because that is what will help me build that better place.

Until the next post, thank you for reading! As always, wishing you love and success!